When tears are a sign of strength
By Dr. Rabbi Cohen Shalomim Y. HaLahawi
Mizrahi-Ethiopian Jewish Int’l Rabbinical Council
Ha’ Yisrayli Torah Brith Yahad
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Koheleth(Ecclessiastes) 2:1 I said in my heart, “Come now, let me try you with rejoicing and find out what is good.” But see, that too was futile.
Ecc 2:2 I said of laughter, “It is madness,” and of rejoicing, “What does it do?”
Ecc 2:3 I searched in my heart how to stimulate my body with wine, while guiding my heart with wisdom, and how to lay hold on folly, until I could see what was good for the sons of men to do under the heavens all the days of their lives. “
Ecc 2:22 For what does a man get for all his labour and strain of his heart with which he has toiled under the sun?
Ecc 2:23 For all his days are sufferings, and his work grievous; even in the night his heart takes no rest. That too is futile”.
Some of you need to hear this:
It is okay to question and evaluate your manhood. You will never learn how to evolve into the Edenic man Elah has designed you to be unless you have the willingness to question yourself, judge yourself, and measure where you are in your life versus where you should be in your life…
Also, never let an ill-informed street nigga or uppity overconfident elitist convince you that men are not to show emotions to reflect their actual pain, or even sentiment, as opposed to always using the anger emotion for everything other than joy…
It is okay to cry….. Let me say it again, to you men
IT IS OKAY TO CRY!!!!
When you cry out to Yahwah, it’s okay
When your life is in shambles, it’s okay
When your heart is broken and the love of your life walks out on you, it’s okay
When you lose a loved one or are worried about someone dying, it’s okay
When something touches your heart in life or even a movie or TV show, it’s okay
When your child graduates and you give them a big ole hug, it’s okay
If you are a spiritual leader and are giving a message that others struggling need to hear, it’s okay…
Our strength as men does not rest upon how much we are able to show the tough guy, the ‘I ain’t no punk bitch’, or how hard you can look and pose in a photo(even when it’s a spiritual photo)…Our true strength as men rests upon our ability to be vulnerable when we need to be.. Our emotions must match our true feelings. Anger and toughness during a period of hurt and sadness do not release the proper stressors that must be released for our own wellness, health, and being….
Psalms 126:5, “Those sowing in tears, shall reap with songs of joy.
Psa 126:6 He who goes on and weeps, Bearing seed for sowing, Shall indeed come in with rejoicing, Bearing his sheaves.”
Crying releases hormones that remove toxic stressors that are trapped in our tears and mucus membranes. Displaying the wrong emotion trait will cause the stressors to remain entrapped within our biological system which can then build up and cause biological mutations that manifest as degenerative and chronic disease syndromes. This includes a compromised immune system, acute non-viral hepatitis(inflammation of the seat of our emotions), high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, ulcers, and mental health breakdowns such as psychosis, clinical depression, bipolar disorder, and even anger-related violence triggered by unresolved pain…..This is when the Spirit of Sadness, and Spirit of Anger which are demonic in nature are able to cross over into and take over your soul..
As it relates, to your immune system, when you break down and cry you will notice that in addition to your eyes and face becoming saturated due to tears, your nose produces mucus in a manner similar to if you had the flu, a cold, or covid.
Mucus is produced to trap biological pathogens, neutralize them, and keep them entrapped until the body expels them when we cough or blow our nose.
So your body reacts to emotional distress as if it is a biological pathogen. And if we do not express the right emotion and allow that particular stressor to remain in the system, it then goes on to negatively and destructively affect the seat of our emotions, our liver & kidneys.
Also, you will notice that the eyes will turn red and your face actually swells while you are crying. The face swelling is an inflammatory response, that also assists in causing your blood vessels to expand to allow more blood flow, and in that blood flow is your thoughts, fears, sadness, etc., all being transported throughout your biological system. Your eyes are connected to your liver. That is why the eyes are called the “windows to the soul” because the color and state of your eyes are a reflection of the state of your liver and your soul. The redness is an inflammatory response to your emotional state that is to be expressed. Redness can also occur during Liver and Kidney failure as well as when you smoke marijuana, and use other recreational drugs, due to the toxic pathogen-like effect it has on the seat of the soul.
People don’t realize that the Liver is actually our heart, the “Leb” in Aramaic. When we ask Yahwah to change our “heart” we are speaking of the liver as the seat of our soul. Our brain is not where our mind exists. Our brain is basically a switchboard and a cloud memory storage. It is not the mainframe, the motherboard or the central plant. It is simply a switchboard. Not knowing this is actually the underlying reason why Western Psychiatry is a failure, and has come forth and recognized that failure after being exposed to and understanding Chinese Medical Theory which teaches the proper seat of the soul as being the Liver-Kidney. Zyprexa, Zoloft, Cymbalta, etc., don’t work for the simple fact that they target the “switch-board” to try to make it function a certain way, without ever going to the mainframe to find out why the signals related to our emotions and mental state of being is malfunctioning. They can adjust the switchboard all day, but if the main frame doesn’t work, then the person will never heal and stabilize whichever emotion(s) is malfunctioning and in a degenerative state(i.e. Anger, Sadness, Depression, Anxiety, Apathy, Joy, Joyful, disappointment, fear, hopeful, doubtful, etc., etc…)
The liver is also the mechanism that purifies and cleans our biological system every night while we sleep. The majority of our blood literally all goes and fills up in the liver while we are asleep in a state of unconsciousness. After the liver purifies the blood(or purifies our heart), the blood is then released back into its normal state and we awaken.
This is why it’s important to protect and ensure our liver and kidneys are healthy at all times. Dietary habits such as alcohol, drugs, processed foods, and meat eating, along with chemicals, environmental pollution, destructive social behaviors, destructive relationships, rape and abuse culture, & emotional abuse, exploitation, etc., are all factors we have to protect our biological system from. All of these are factors that will damage the liver and kidneys which will then lead to mental health instability.
So as you can see there are many factors that affect our mental state of being, and there are ways we are supposed to naturally and healthily express our mental state of being. You have to know when to be vulnerable.
Crying is a natural mechanism that Yahwah built into human beings, male and female. You are supposed to react properly to situations. Holding in your emotions or not being able to control your emotions will always lead to a negative destructive effect, both internally and externally.
Our strength is in our vulnerability, and our humanity
Eccl 3:1 For every matter there is an appointed time, even a time for every pursuit under the heavens:
Ecc 3:2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to uproot;
Ecc 3:3 a time to slay, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
Ecc 3:4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
Ecc 3:5 a time to throw away stones, and a time to gather stones; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
Ecc 3:6 a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to throw away;
Ecc 3:7 a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to be silent, and a time to speak;
Ecc 3:8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for battle, and a time for peace.
Psalm 34:17 “The righteous cried out, and יהוה heard, And delivered them out of all their distresses.
Psa 34:18 יהוה is near to the broken-hearted, And saves those whose spirit is crushed.”
It’s okay to express our humanity via tears & emotion. Don’t hold in the pain, the disappointment, the sadness, the loss, betrayal, the hurt, and the brokenness anymore. At this moment, let it all out, and let healing do its job.
I love you all with the Love of Yahwah Elah!!
B’ruch Shemo,
Dr. Rabbi-Cohen Shalomim Y. HaLahawi